Friendly Debates with the Danielles: Birth Control for Teenage Daughters

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Welcome to Week 15 of Friendly Debates With The Danielles!

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Birth Control for Teenage Daughters: Yay or Nay? What do YOU say?

birth controlSo the real question we are addressing here is would I allow my teen daughter to take birth control pills or use another form of prescribed birth control.  I will be honest with you my girls are only three and one year old, but this is something I think about a lot!  I think it’s something everyone who has a daughter thinks about…. it scares me to death that when my girls are teenagers they could come to me and tell me they are pregnant.  And so, yes my girls will be given the option to take birth control pills… but I want to explain a bit more about my plans.

First of all we will begin having sex talks at a young age.  I don’t remember my mom having any sex talks with me and I really wish she had.  If you wait til your kids are in their teen years sex becomes a taboo subject that will make you both uncomfortable.  Of course when my girls are younger we will not be going into detail by any means, but keeping things age appropriate.  I will also always answer questions 100% honestly no matter what age they are.  If they are asking a question then they deserve an answer.  I hope and pray by keeping open communication with my girls through out their childhood and teen years that when boys come into the picture they will feel comfortable to talk to me about any questions or feelings they have.

Now speaking of boys…. when my girls start to show a romantic interest in boys I will definitely talk to them about birth control.  I will show them the options and explain the risks and benefits of each.  I will also explain that being on birth control does not by any means say that I am giving them permission to engage in sexual activity.  It means that I trust them to make informed decisions and smart choices, but that I am not naïve.  I also will want them to know that if something does happen and they become pregnant I do not want them to be scared to come to me.  That I will still love them regardless and that we will work through it together.

And for those of you who think that your children will be virgins til the day they say “I do”….. here are some cold hard facts:

  • The U.S. has the highest teen pregnancy rate in the industrialized world.
  • About 750,000 teens get pregnant in the United States each year.
  • About 1 in 3 women become pregnant at least once before they’re 20.
  • A sexually active teen who does not use contraceptives has a 90% chance of becoming pregnant within a year. {See why I say YAY….}
  • Only a third of teen mothers earn their high school diploma.
  • And only 1.5% have a college degree by age 30.
  • Girls born to teen mothers are more likely to be teen mothers themselves.
  • Boys born to teen moms are more likely to end up in prison.
  • Teen pregnancy costs the United States $9 billion each year.


I plan to do my best in raising my girls so that they respect themselves and their bodies.  So that they will wait for that one special person that they love with all their heart and so that they will save that special gift for them.  But I will not be a naïve mom.  I will talk to them about sex.  I will talk to them about birth control.  I will make it available to them.  And I will raise smart girls who make smart choices.  What about you?  Link up and let me know.

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3 Responses to Friendly Debates with the Danielles: Birth Control for Teenage Daughters

  1. Great points Danielle. I’m glad you included some statistics. It seems like teen pregnancy is so common these days. It’s pretty scary as a parent and something that I definitely worry about. And I totally agree that while we all want to believe our kids will be the ones that won’t have sex as teens, it just seems better to have the talks and be realistic because it is very common.

  2. What an interesting topic! I’ve been wanting to write about my own experiences with birth control and this was the perfect opportunity!

  3. By the way, I tried to copy and paste the “friendly debate” button from the sidebar and it didn’t work for me (said the image couldn’t be found). I figured out another way to put it in, but thought you might like to know it’s not working right (it’s also possible that I did something wrong, though!).

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