Friendly Debates with the Danielles: Finding Out Gender Before Birth

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Welcome to Week 53 of Friendly Debates With The Danielles!

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TOPIC
Knowing Gender Before Birth:  Yay or Nay? What do YOU say?

Gender Debate

This is one of those to each their own type things… but for Dustin and I it is definitely a yay.  And for many reasons.

– I am NOT a patient person.  I was so impatient with Willow that I couldn’t even wait until the 20 week ultrasound at the OBGYN’s office!  I scheduled a 3D scan at a local facility at 15 weeks so I could find out.

– I hate gender neutral clothing, blankets, nursery décor.  It all seems to be yellow and green with ducks on it.  Totally not my style.

– Names.  What’s the point in bickering with Dustin over a name that might never come to be.  We could never agree on a boy name when pregnant the first time, so after that we decided not to talk names til we knew the gender.  So obviously we weren’t gonna wait til the actual birth to discuss this!

– Personalized Stuff.  I really like to personalize everything and since I tend to choose names that aren’t found on key chains and sippy cups everything needs to be special ordered or hand made.  All of my girls have had their names hanging above their cribs and other places around the room too.  In fact Willow’s initials are on the curtains covering her closet!

– Bonding not only for me, but for the older siblings.  Once baby has a name it feels like everything becomes more real… if that makes sense?  During my second and third pregnancy the older siblings learned the babies name and would talk to them, hug them, kiss them goodnight – all while they were still in mama’s belly.

And here are all the pictures when I found out that the lil peanut growing inside me was a girl…. and a girl…. and another beautiful girl!

Gender Ultrasounds

I can also see that it could be fun to wait and let the gender be a surprise.  Or that it could even help to be a motivator to push when in labor because you are so excited to find out who has been kicking you for all those months.  But even knowing what gender was inside me I was still motivated to push and push and push because I just wanted to lay my eyes on my gorgeous baby.  Oh and I also realize that sometimes gender scans can be wrong.  I’m sure everyone has heard of a person that was told one gender and it turned out to be the other after they had spent tons of money on gender specific clothing, décor, etc.  This is why I am positive to get a very clear image before I believe the ultrasound tech one hundred percent.  And in all of my pregnancies I have had multiple ultrasounds that have all said the same thing.  Ya, I know mistakes can still be made – but luckily for us they were all right.

So what about you?  Do you find out the gender while pregnant or wait til that little bundle of joy makes his/her entrance into the world?  Leave me a comment or link up – I’d love to hear your thoughts!



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6 Responses to Friendly Debates with the Danielles: Finding Out Gender Before Birth

  1. Jessica Hilton says:

    with Corbin we waited until his birthday it was extremely hard towards the end but it was so exciting during my emergency c section to hear it being announced that we have a Corbin!!! (and thats exactly how it was announced by my anesthesiologist my OB couldnt get it out before he announced it ) This time around we have contemplated finding out before hand. We did the 20 week ultra sound and chose not to find out but since I was diagnosed with partial placenta previa we have another ultra sound scheduled here in a couple weeks and have discussed the possibility of finding out. I guess we just dont do well with being tempted multiple times 🙂 It will make our 4th ultra sound this pregnancy. (8wk, 20wk, fetal echo and then the next one will be 28wk) Decisions, Decisions!! 🙂 I agree with you tho to each his own there is no right or wrong decision just what feels right to you at the time.)

  2. Even though I am not planning on becoming pregnant soon. I have thought about this and I am on the fence. I can see both sides. Like you I do not like gender neutral clothing and rooms, plus I like to plan and make sure all my duckies are in a row.

    Thanks for the post!
    Ashley

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  4. Yay, I finally linked up! 😉 Of course, you already know that we wait, but now you can find out why! LOL.

  5. Danielle says:

    I think it would be fun to wait but I am def a planner and would not be patient for 40 weeks. I say you already wait 20 weeks… its a suprise then. I think it would be awesome to give your gender results to a photographer or baker and have it revelead with friends and family.

  6. Teri says:

    With our first child, we waited until birth to find out the gender. Although I am naturally a planner and an ultimate organizer, I was able to wait and it was SO WORTH IT! I’m expecting our second now and we found out the gender. It’s so different, and I have to admit, although we are excited to add to the family, it’s not as exciting as it was with the first child and not knowing.

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